It is so much easier to compare yourself today than it has ever been before. With daily social media consumption where every woman seems to have the perfect body, perfect marriage, perfect career, and living their best life, it leaves us drained and feeling like failures.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” It can only leave you feeling frustrated and anxious. Comparison will never add any value to your life and will instead take away the time and energy that you would have spent on other constructive things.
It’s easier to feel like the other woman is better than you in every way possible than it is to extend the same courtesy to yourself. When you compare yourself, you’re allowing others to control your behavior; you’re setting yourself up for sadness.
How about embracing your own unique journey? There’s no one better at being you than you. It’s time you shifted your mindset from comparing yourself with others and start comparing you of today with you of yesterday.
Are you ready to let go of comparison and embrace your own unique journey? In this blog post, we explore four tips to help you start embracing your journey.
- Be honest to start healing
If you want to stop comparing your journey with others, you have to start by being honest with how you’re feeling. Are you jealous or envious of their achievements? Can you identify what’s triggering these emotions? Being honest about what you feel and about your triggers is the first step towards healing.
- Seek God’s guidance
Do you have a relationship with God? As a woman of God, it is important that you seek God’s guidance about who you are and your worth. God is always ready to listen to us and to fulfill us in the path that He has planned for us. Develop a relationship with God, and He’ll show you a path you won’t have to compare with others.
- Find your purpose
We’re all created with a unique purpose that differs from person to person. Comparing your journey with other women is only taking away from what God has planned for you. Instead of wasting your time and energy comparing, refocus your energy on establishing your identity. Get to know your value, what you stand for, and the purpose for your life.
- Exercise gratitude
What are you grateful for in your life today? When you’re thankful for what you already have, it becomes impossible to harbor negative feelings in your heart. Start a gratitude journal and jot down at least 3 things daily that you’re grateful for. You will be so busy being grateful for what you have that you won’t have time to think of what you don’t have or to compare with others.
- Use comparison as motivation
How about instead of comparing yourself and seeing other women as enemies, you start seeing their achievements as motivation towards your own goals. Think of the women who have what you want, and instead of being envious or jealous of them, aspire to be more like them. Turn those negative emotions into positive and constructive emotions.
Is there any one way of living life? The answer is NO! There isn’t a concrete way each one of us should lead life. The above items will help you get started, but the only way you’ll find true happiness is in God first who will show you the best way. Focus on Him and what’s important to you and don’t let it go until you learn to embrace yourself.
